Food for thought

Tips to follow to become more mindful and to grow your self-esteem


1. What you focus your mind on grows bigger.
“Watch your thoughts for they become words, watch your words for they become actions, watch your actions, for they become habits, watch your habits for they become your character, watch
your character for it becomes your destiny.”

Having a mind filled with negative thoughts will lead to a negative life, have a mind filled with positivity will breed a positive one. Change your mindset when needed.

2. Don’t take things personally.
Your life will be much happier if you don’t mentally wound yourself by making other people’s actions “about you.”

3. Express gratitude — every day.
Take a moment daily to acknowledge the good in your life. Write a gratitude list and email it to yourself, or journal, whatever method works for you; but, write it down. (Don’t do it mentally, as the habit won’t take … and by all means, don’t give a damn about what others think about you.)

4 Stand up for yourself but don’t act entitled

There are people in this world, who think they are owed everything and there are people too scared to ask for everything. Don’t be on either side.

5. Ask for 100 % of what you want from 100% of people 100% of the time.
Being upfront about your needs and wants eliminates a lot of angst, inconvenience and discomfort in your life —Ask – all they can say is no.
If someone thinks less of you because you dared to state what you need, make a note to find better people in the future.

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A Positive Wellness Prognosis Extends your Life

If you are sick and tired of the rat race, monkey brain and hamster wheel to nowhere, the article penned below should make your day a little better!

 Heed the messenger…

By Chris Koch – senior voice consultant at The Voice Advisory (formally Voice Coach)

…. on a train passing Dangar Island on the Hawkesbury River, just off Brooklyn. It seems to sit so calmly mid-stream in its car-free, romantic isolation.

… No cars.  

Last weekend for a family birthday we ended up … spending the night in a whitewashed cottage with an open fire, and a stunning wintry landscape with the shallow, rocky river running past. There was no phone coverage. No computers. No TV.

The persistent buzz, distractions, the speedy thoughts that characterize the state most of us spend our lives in at work – what an utter relief when the buzz is gone – suddenly, for one reason or another. Of course, it’s not always possible to cut the cords and head for the hills – but what if we could stop the buzz without leaving town?

I’d argue, it’s possible. We only have to look to thousands of years of contemplative practice, across cultures, from Buddhism to the Sufis to Marcus Aurelius, to see that the ability : stop, breathe, and focus on the purpose is internal to us.

And if we look to contemporary science, we can see the remarkable affects of meditation on the brain, the heart rate, the breathing.

So in our working lives, where the buzz of business and end-gaining often dominates, let's try it.

Before we begin to speak – to the conference, to the meeting, to the interview panel – just stop.

Allow breath to happen. Focus on the purpose, the audience. Then begin, deliberately, not captives of our own out-of-control momentum, but the authors of our own decisions, the ones setting the agenda.